Pass It Along

This is un be-f*&#ing-levable.

I don't want to be this way. I don't want to lump all Republicans (and well, many politicians in general) in to the refuse bin. I don't. But when you actively work to segregate, punish and take rights away from people who need those rights more than anyone, why should I believe that you will protect me when I need it most?

I want someone to explain it to me - how keeping people who are in love from marrying will save families. How preventing a woman who either has been victimized or needs a second chance from accessing a safe, legal abortion will save anyone's life. How can you believe in giving so much control back to the state and back to the individual, engaging a capitalist society, but feel that you have the power to make decisions about our bodies and souls? It's such a glaring hypocrasy!

While I didn't intend to make this post centric on women's rights, my last statement is this: why do I feel, when I read this, when I see this, when I hear this, that someone thinks I aspire to abort my unborn child? Why are the lawmakers speaking loudest about this issue men? No woman wants to have an abortion. Ever. Stop flapping your egotistical, narcissistic and hateful mouth about issues that have no, and I repeat NO relevance to you.

**Complete anger and harsh reality to follow** I cannot BELIEVE I am supposed to live in this country shoving God down my throat while some man tells me who I can marry and when I can have children. Hey, John McCain! I am cordially inviting you over to my Mother's house for dinner, anytime between today and October 30th. You can help her work through her tens of thousands of dollars in my brother's hospital debt while you explain how her children's father can run off, skip his child support, and leave her with four children and a job as a waitress. Still think that heterosexual couples are the only ones fit to raise a child?

I know absolutely no one will comment this post, but I wish someone out there would explain why I shouldn't feel this way. Lately, I feel like I'm either preaching to the choir or on deaf ears.

Someone has to wake up, and fast.

***ADDENDUM***
I am a 100% supporter of adoption, and I have friends who were adopted and lead wonderful lives. The issue does not lie there. Carrying a child to term only to give it up takes and incredulous amount of strength and bravery and unfortunately, the women who are seeking abortions don't always have those qualities or support systems in reserve. We SHOULD be promoting adoption, but when we ignore the reproductive rights and system surrounding it so blatantly, how is that possible? John McCain touts the fact that he "and his wife, Cindy, adopted a little girl from Mother Teresa's orphanage in Bangladesh. She has been a blessing to the McCain family and helped make adoption advocacy a personal issue for the Senator." If he's so serious, why didn't he adopt an American child?

*******SECOND ADDENDUM*******
I found this blog while researching for a work project and continue to read it for enjoyment. The author posted this today, and it brought me to tears.

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Actually...

I just noticed today that I'm literally the only blogger I personally know (or 2nd level know) who does not blog about their children.

That's because, of course, I don't have any.

I really enjoy reading about the lives of real women who have endless stories about their little ones.

I've tried to get in to a few non-mommy blogs but they all end up being about the same, boring stuff. In fact, those blogs end up making me feel bad about my own - we tend to write about selfish and pointless information.

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Love and Marriage Prevail

A year or so ago, I spoke with my Mom on the phone after she had voted No on the Wisconsin measure to ban gay marriage through the state's constitution. She voted no, but the state voted yes - the measure passed, and I was disgusted and embarrassed to be a native.

Today, I drove through Downtown San Francisco listening to a special broadcast of "Out In The Bay" on KALW as the sun set, on my way to pick up my husband, feeling like I lived in the greatest place on earth. Our Supreme Court today bravely overturned the constitutional ban on gay marriage - putting this great state once again at the forefront of progress for all people. This is the same state whose supreme court struck down the constitutional ban on interracial marriage in 1948 (while the US court did not vote on thus until 1967).


From the WSJ:

“The right to marry,” Chief Justice George wrote, “represents the right of an individual to establish a legally recognized family with a person of one’s choice and, as such, is of fundamental significance both to society and to the individual.”

Chief Justice George conceded that “as an historical matter in this state marriage has always been restricted to a union between a man and a woman.” But “tradition alone,” he continued, does not justify the denial of a fundamental constitutional right. Bans on interracial marriage were, he wrote, sanctioned by the state for many years.

I'd like to meet this man. He's got it exactly right.

In a society where we see 50% of heterosexual marriages ending in divorce, why do so many people wish to deny the right of marriage, of family, to people who so desperately want it? I do not understand why love would be denied, especially with our country's degrading view and importance of family.

And free means free. Without progression, there is no freedom. I respect the religious population who say that same-sex marriage is forbidden by the book they live by, but considering that this is a country employed on a separation of church and state, those opinions have no weight on this legal point. I'm sorry, National Organization for Marriage, but YOU are wrong from top to bottom on this one. It's not an issue of religion. This is a matter, like Chief Justice George said, of the right and freedom of every American to legally construct and establish a family, their family. Why would anyone want to take that right, that love, that happiness away?

The aforementioned National Organization for Marriage is a questionable and misleading group who have fought to get a November vote on a Constitutional ban on same-sex marriage in California. Let's hope that when this matter is presented to the population of California, they will stand up for the rights our Justices have given today. LGBT people are the minority - those of us who are heterosexual and concerned about freedom and liberty must stand up for their rights now.

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